Happy end of November everyone! Poor Russ is sick in bed, so I am taking care of him (well, actually he's sleeping right now). He's catching a cold and I really hope I don't catch it from him! There is not any exciting news on our child front, but I found this link on another infertility blog (which I am really enjoying right now) regarding Facebook statuses and pregnancies.
For those of you on Facebook, how many of you remember the breast cancer game where people put something down like "I'm 16 weeks and craving bananas". Read the post at http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2011/09/pretending-youre-pregnant-makes-people-truly-understand-breast-cancer. By the way, for those of you who posted that, it was very hurtful. One Facebook friend actually invited me to play that game! Ummmm...yeah, not playing that.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Results of the final home study!!
Okay, folks, it's what you've been waiting for! Final home study results!
We were so nervous about this final visit. The social worker showed up and Sunny was a complete angel. She remembered her from last time! She was soo cute, she only barked (again) when the case worker did not pet her! She still wanted that attention! All of us sat in the living room while the case worker asked a variety of questions. During that time, Sunny was sleeping on the couch between us. It's almost like if you didn't know she was there, you never would have guessed it.
The questions lasted for about 2 hours again. Then, she had a long checklist of items to look for in our home. She checked for the child safety locks, working fire extinguishers, and working smoke detectors. She noticed that we had two disaster plans - one in the child's room and one in the living room. She also noticed that our cords from the blinds in our home were properly placed so a child could not reach them. Another thing she checked was that all of our rugs in our house had the grip stuff on the bottom so they would not come loose.
We then signed some papers and she left us with one last "homework assignment". We had to create a three-generation family tree for each one of us. We also had to note if the family member was deceased, and the year they were deceased. Taryn's was pretty easy because her family is pretty small. Russell's was kind of difficult, because his Mom and Dad had at least 7 siblings each! But, we figured that out and came up with two great looking family trees! Right before she left, she told us that she thought we would make great parents! Yeah!!!
What happens next? The approval process. The social worker told us that these normally go pretty fast and that we should be approved by the end of the year. And then that's where the fun part begins-we start talking about a little one! Right now, we are expecting to hear about our child somewhere between January and February. So we are planning to enjoy December as one of our last months as "just a married couple"!
We were so nervous about this final visit. The social worker showed up and Sunny was a complete angel. She remembered her from last time! She was soo cute, she only barked (again) when the case worker did not pet her! She still wanted that attention! All of us sat in the living room while the case worker asked a variety of questions. During that time, Sunny was sleeping on the couch between us. It's almost like if you didn't know she was there, you never would have guessed it.
The questions lasted for about 2 hours again. Then, she had a long checklist of items to look for in our home. She checked for the child safety locks, working fire extinguishers, and working smoke detectors. She noticed that we had two disaster plans - one in the child's room and one in the living room. She also noticed that our cords from the blinds in our home were properly placed so a child could not reach them. Another thing she checked was that all of our rugs in our house had the grip stuff on the bottom so they would not come loose.
We then signed some papers and she left us with one last "homework assignment". We had to create a three-generation family tree for each one of us. We also had to note if the family member was deceased, and the year they were deceased. Taryn's was pretty easy because her family is pretty small. Russell's was kind of difficult, because his Mom and Dad had at least 7 siblings each! But, we figured that out and came up with two great looking family trees! Right before she left, she told us that she thought we would make great parents! Yeah!!!
What happens next? The approval process. The social worker told us that these normally go pretty fast and that we should be approved by the end of the year. And then that's where the fun part begins-we start talking about a little one! Right now, we are expecting to hear about our child somewhere between January and February. So we are planning to enjoy December as one of our last months as "just a married couple"!
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Home Study #2 Results
I know, many of you have been waiting for this post! Today we will be having our final home study, and we are sooo excited! But, let me back up and tell you about the previous home study two weeks ago.
When the woman arrived, it kinda made us do a double-take because she resembled Russell's mom. She was very nice, and Sunny absolutely loved her. She barked at first, but it was only when she would stop petting Sunny. I guess Sunny wanted lots of attention too! After the woman was at our home for awhile, Sunny settled down and went to sleep on the couch. She was a perfect angel through it all.
She arrived just after 10 a.m. on November 1 and did not leave until after 1 p.m. We did not think a home study could take that long! For the first two hours, she asked us all sorts of questions. It started off with general questions such as our job and education, and then there were lots of questions asked about our childhoods. We were reminded, while answering those questions, how different our childhoods were from each other. Not bad, just different. Russell came from the traditional family-Mom, Dad, Russell, and his brothers. Taryn's childhood was not as traditional because her parents divorced when she was young so there were stepfamilies to deal with at various points in her childhood and always had to figure out which parent she was spending different holidays with. Like we said, not bad, just different. She also asked us different questions on our beliefs on raising children.
After that was completed, we gave her a tour of our home. She was impressed with the child safety locks that we had in place and absolutely loved the room where our child will sleep. She was also excited that the child would have not just their own bedroom, but their own bathroom as well.
She informed us that there are two things we needed to complete before she came back for the final home study. We were to make a disaster plan (fire escapes and in case of severe weather) and we had to move the cords from our drapes high to where the child could not reach them.
Our next home study is scheduled for today at 10 a.m. Wish us luck!!
When the woman arrived, it kinda made us do a double-take because she resembled Russell's mom. She was very nice, and Sunny absolutely loved her. She barked at first, but it was only when she would stop petting Sunny. I guess Sunny wanted lots of attention too! After the woman was at our home for awhile, Sunny settled down and went to sleep on the couch. She was a perfect angel through it all.
She arrived just after 10 a.m. on November 1 and did not leave until after 1 p.m. We did not think a home study could take that long! For the first two hours, she asked us all sorts of questions. It started off with general questions such as our job and education, and then there were lots of questions asked about our childhoods. We were reminded, while answering those questions, how different our childhoods were from each other. Not bad, just different. Russell came from the traditional family-Mom, Dad, Russell, and his brothers. Taryn's childhood was not as traditional because her parents divorced when she was young so there were stepfamilies to deal with at various points in her childhood and always had to figure out which parent she was spending different holidays with. Like we said, not bad, just different. She also asked us different questions on our beliefs on raising children.
After that was completed, we gave her a tour of our home. She was impressed with the child safety locks that we had in place and absolutely loved the room where our child will sleep. She was also excited that the child would have not just their own bedroom, but their own bathroom as well.
She informed us that there are two things we needed to complete before she came back for the final home study. We were to make a disaster plan (fire escapes and in case of severe weather) and we had to move the cords from our drapes high to where the child could not reach them.
Our next home study is scheduled for today at 10 a.m. Wish us luck!!
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
It's Time for a Home Study!!
Things have certainly been interesting around here! On Monday, I found out I was going to Kennedy Space Center for a fantastic children's librarian workshop! And I was one of 40 applicants selected. I was told they received over 100 applications, so that's pretty awesome.
On Tuesday, several things happened. Russell went to start his truck, moved about 1/4 mile, and discovered the alternator is out. Ughh. So now we are down to sharing one car until the alternator can come in (which will be Monday).
But the best thing happened on Tuesday! I was at lunch and I received a call to set up our home study!! Our home study is scheduled for this coming Tuesday, November 1, at 10 a.m. This is the call we have definitely been waiting on. I am told this home study should last at least 2-3 hours. This is the second home study (out of 3) that we will need to have. The third and final home study is supposed to be completed within a month from Tuesday. But, we know how these things go so we are not getting our hopes up too high about that.
We still have alot to do to get ready for this home study. We have been cleaning like crazy and putting the child locks back on our cabinets. We took them off after the first home study because there was no use keeping them on when it is just the two of us living at our house.
So what happens next? This home study is conducted by an outside vendor. They have 30 days to complete both home studies and write up their reports in order to get paid by DFCS. Next, we go for local, regional, and state approval (which could take at least 1-2 months) and then it gets really exciting!! That's when we will eventually find out details about our child!! And of course, that's the best part. :)
I'll be sure to post next week to update you all on our visit!!
-Taryn
On Tuesday, several things happened. Russell went to start his truck, moved about 1/4 mile, and discovered the alternator is out. Ughh. So now we are down to sharing one car until the alternator can come in (which will be Monday).
But the best thing happened on Tuesday! I was at lunch and I received a call to set up our home study!! Our home study is scheduled for this coming Tuesday, November 1, at 10 a.m. This is the call we have definitely been waiting on. I am told this home study should last at least 2-3 hours. This is the second home study (out of 3) that we will need to have. The third and final home study is supposed to be completed within a month from Tuesday. But, we know how these things go so we are not getting our hopes up too high about that.
We still have alot to do to get ready for this home study. We have been cleaning like crazy and putting the child locks back on our cabinets. We took them off after the first home study because there was no use keeping them on when it is just the two of us living at our house.
So what happens next? This home study is conducted by an outside vendor. They have 30 days to complete both home studies and write up their reports in order to get paid by DFCS. Next, we go for local, regional, and state approval (which could take at least 1-2 months) and then it gets really exciting!! That's when we will eventually find out details about our child!! And of course, that's the best part. :)
I'll be sure to post next week to update you all on our visit!!
-Taryn
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Donate to our adoption fund!
So, adoption can be costly. Very. The cost of adopting a child through the foster care system is lower than "traditional" adoption processes, but there are still many costs including court costs, attorney fees, fees for different tests, and many other costs associated with bringing a child into our home. If you want to help us bring our child into our home and help us create a "Forever Family", donate to our adoption fund. 100% of the funds received will go towards adoption process costs and for the care of our child. You can donate through PayPal on the top of our blog, and it will be there until our adoption is finalized. Every little bit you give helps give our child the support and love he or she needs.
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Hoping and waiting...
...And waiting some more. This morning, Russell called the case worker to find out what's going on since we hadn't heard from them lately. We mailed the remaining paperwork 2 weeks ago. Supposedly, we are going to get a call from the agency that does the home study this week. If it happens, we will be so excited!! I do hope this is going to happen this week. Our case worker told us to call her next Tuesday if we don't hear from the agency by then. Until then, we are just hoping and waiting....
Friday, September 9, 2011
What's going on?
Yeah...you're all asking me what's going on with the process. Until a week ago, it was absolutely nothing. Last week, I was beginning to get worried because I hadn't heard anything from our case worker in over a month. So Russell called our case worker last Wednesday and found out that our paperwork had been sitting on a person's desk in Thomasville for A MONTH!!! COLLECTING DUST!!! (As you can see, I'm pretty upset about it.)
We then found out that our paperwork was FINALLY transferred to this woman in Thomasville's boss in Albany for her staff to review. She told us that her aides were reviewing the paperwork, and that they would get back with us in 1-2 weeks.
Well, we received a letter last night from the DFCS office in Albany. It was pretty thick so we were excited. In it was a letter stating they need another copy of our driver's licenses and auto insurance cards. OK-no big deal. Also, they wanted us to fill out the enclosed paperwork. When we started looking through it, it just didn't seem right. There were sheets on physicals that needed to be done on our own children. Considering we don't have children, we were concerned. As we were looking at the paperwork they sent, we received someone else's paperwork!! Of course, it wasn't everything, but there were 6 pages of someone else's paperwork!! And none of the forms we needed to fill out were in the envelope.
This morning, Russell called our case worker to find out what was going on. The person from Thomasville drove up to Albany to find out personally what had happened. The person who was responsible for sending us the paperwork blamed it on her assistants. That's ridiculous, because she should have made sure the correct paperwork was going out to the right people. They called Russell around 11 a.m. and explained that we did not need to fill out any of the paperwork that they sent us (Duh!) and that they sent us the correct paperwork on Wednesday. We are seriously doubting that statement. We are giving them until Saturday to receive the paperwork, and if we still do not receive anything, we are taking action on Monday.
If they send us the correct paperwork, we are planning to fill it out and send it back to them on Monday. The case workers have told us that we should hear from the company that does the home study within 1-2 weeks of their receiving our paperwork. If I do not hear from that company, we will be calling in exactly 2 weeks.
We are so upset over everything that has happened lately, but are still optimistic and anxious to meet our child. This will all be worth it in the end.
We then found out that our paperwork was FINALLY transferred to this woman in Thomasville's boss in Albany for her staff to review. She told us that her aides were reviewing the paperwork, and that they would get back with us in 1-2 weeks.
Well, we received a letter last night from the DFCS office in Albany. It was pretty thick so we were excited. In it was a letter stating they need another copy of our driver's licenses and auto insurance cards. OK-no big deal. Also, they wanted us to fill out the enclosed paperwork. When we started looking through it, it just didn't seem right. There were sheets on physicals that needed to be done on our own children. Considering we don't have children, we were concerned. As we were looking at the paperwork they sent, we received someone else's paperwork!! Of course, it wasn't everything, but there were 6 pages of someone else's paperwork!! And none of the forms we needed to fill out were in the envelope.
This morning, Russell called our case worker to find out what was going on. The person from Thomasville drove up to Albany to find out personally what had happened. The person who was responsible for sending us the paperwork blamed it on her assistants. That's ridiculous, because she should have made sure the correct paperwork was going out to the right people. They called Russell around 11 a.m. and explained that we did not need to fill out any of the paperwork that they sent us (Duh!) and that they sent us the correct paperwork on Wednesday. We are seriously doubting that statement. We are giving them until Saturday to receive the paperwork, and if we still do not receive anything, we are taking action on Monday.
If they send us the correct paperwork, we are planning to fill it out and send it back to them on Monday. The case workers have told us that we should hear from the company that does the home study within 1-2 weeks of their receiving our paperwork. If I do not hear from that company, we will be calling in exactly 2 weeks.
We are so upset over everything that has happened lately, but are still optimistic and anxious to meet our child. This will all be worth it in the end.
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